Is it ok to use someone else’s wedding to propose to your own partner?
That’s the debate raging online thanks to a Reddit thread about a maid of honour who asked a bride-to-be if she minded her proposing to her own partner on the big day.
A 27-year-old woman took to Reddit to share her dilemma ahead of her own wedding.
“I am getting married at the end of the month and my childhood best friend and maid of honour has asked me if she can propose to her girlfriend at my wedding,” she wrote.
“She says it would be nice if she could get engaged at my wedding because she is with her girlfriend because of me and my partner, and it would be sweet to get engaged when we are celebrating our love and commitment to each other.”
But the bride-to-be said she just wanted it to be her big day and didn’t want anyone else to be the centre of attention.
“I told her no because it’s my wedding, so she said that I was being a selfish b**** and I couldn’t let her have this one good thing because I always had to make myself the centre of attention,” she wrote.
“I told her no again and that if she still wanted to propose at my wedding she better tell me now, so I can get a new MOH (maid of honour) and that she is uninvited from the wedding.
“She ended the call and we haven’t spoken in nearly a month.”
The bride-to-be said her partner had asked if she wanted to throw away a 20-year friendship and if it was such a bad thing for her maid of honour to have asked.
“Most of our mutual friends are on my side but some of them are telling me I should let her have this,” the woman wrote.
“So AITA (am I the a******)?”
A file image of a bride and bridesmaid. Credit: Rick Gomez/Getty Images/Tetra images RF
Opinion came down strongly on the side of the bride-to-be, with most saying she was well within her rights to reject the proposal idea.
While some said it was okay for the friend to ask, her reaction – calling the bride “selfish” and not accepting the answer – was where they drew the line.
“She wants a free engagement party/celebration at your expense,” one person wrote.
“No way in hell! Honestly, I would have done exactly the same thing if I was you.”
“Clearly, this friend likes to deflect. Uninvite your MOH and choose a new one,” another said.
“I’m guessing your friend group are always bending to her drama.
“If she does come and gets engaged, please announce your pregnancy at her wedding.”
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‘If she does come and gets engaged, please announce your pregnancy at her wedding.’
“I love how she thinks YOU selfish for not wanting her to propose at YOUR wedding,” a third person wrote.
“Like, what? I’d keep her demoted and uninvited at this point.”
A few pitched in to say they wouldn’t mind if a friend proposed to their partner as long as they didn’t make “a big fuss” about it and did it privately.
“I would be so happy if my friends got engaged at my wedding,” one said.
“It’s a day of love, the only way it can be better is by adding more love.”
Source by 7news.com.au